For many of us, the thought of going on a blind date after the age of 50 probably never crossed our minds. But in 2016, it’s happening more than ever. So how do you freshen up on the dating scene to give yourself the best chance for a love connection?
Jane E. from Sacramento was 61 years old when her marriage ultimately crumbled. The new life she had been living since her children moved out had greatly strained her relationship with her husband, leading them to seek separate lives. Eager to make the most of her third stage of life, she set out on the dating scene and was blown away by the number of singles her age in the exact same situation. Late-life divorce, also called “silver” or “gray” divorce, has become not only more common, but more acceptable in recent years. In 2014, people age 50 and above were twice as likely to go through a divorce than in 1990. For those over 65, the increase was even higher. This has resulted in a wave of silver singles, most of whom are highly interested in sparking a new love life. But how do you go about dusting off those old dating shoes? Here are a few strategies we think you might find helpful:
- Use the Web: As you read this, your contemporaries are meeting and matching on dating sites more than any other age group. A few popular sites that might help you find that special someone are Silversingles.com, OurTime.com, Match.com, SingleAndOver50.com, SeniorSoulMates.com, and EHarmony.com. Happy browsing!
- Romantic Networking: One strategy popular among today’s singles is using your social network to meet possible dating candidates. For example, throw a party where every guest invites someone from outside of the friend group. Alternatively, you can tag along with a friend to a work event or social gathering where you are the only outsider. The more new people you meet, the higher your chance of finding a mate!
- Get Involved: With a club or organization, that is. Mature adults are some of the most likely people to participate in volunteering, clubs and other organizations. In getting involved with a group that caters to your interests – such as museums, books, or environmental care – you have a massive advantage in hitting it off with other members. What could be better than a new special someone who shares your love of wine.
Getting back into the dating scene can be extremely intimidating. For many, this will be the first time you’ve dated since your teens or twenties. But it is important to remember that you are not alone! Virtually every mature single you meet will have been in a relationship for most of their lives, and are trying to re-educate themselves on the rules of courtship. With the millions of 50+ singles out there today, there’s a better chance than ever to find someone perfect for you. So get out and make the most of this new, exciting phase. Best of Luck!
Have you or a friend been on the dating scene in recent years? How did it go? What did you learn about finding a new soul mate? What advice would you have for recent singles? Share your trials and successes below!