Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships

Building a loving relationship isn’t just about luck—it’s about skills. In her thoughtful TEDx talk “Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships”, clinical psychologist Dr. Joanne Davila explores how emotional and relational skills—not just attraction—create the foundation for lasting love. She introduces the concept of romantic competence, which includes three essential abilities: insight, mutuality, and emotional regulation. These tools empower us to make smarter choices in relationships, understand our needs, and build deeper, more respectful partnerships.

Davila’s message is especially relevant for those entering or re-entering relationships at any stage of life. Whether you’re starting fresh after a major transition or seeking to deepen an existing connection, practicing romantic competence leads to healthier love and greater emotional fulfillment. The best relationships aren’t found—they’re built, with intention and care.

What skills have helped you grow in your past or current relationships?
 Are there patterns you’d like to break or new ways you’d like to connect?
 What does a truly healthy romantic relationship look like to you?

Share your thoughts in the Age Brilliantly Forum, and let’s explore how we can all develop stronger, more meaningful connections—at every age.