The Changing Face of Caregiving: Sons Taking the Lead

Author: judyjudy

The Changing Face of Caregiving: Sons Taking the Lead


In a shift from traditional caregiving roles, more men are stepping up to care for their aging parents. However, as the numbers rise, a concerning trend emerges—these caregiving sons often find themselves feeling unprepared and overwhelmed by their situation. After all, caregiving for aging parents grapples with routine tasks and emotional challenges.

Recent data from a 2020 report by AARP and the National Alliance for Caregiving reveals a significant increase in the number of men caring for aging adults. An estimated 18.7 million men are now caregivers, up from 16 million in 2015. Nearly half of these caregivers provide support for their parents or parents-in-law, showcasing a shift in traditional gender roles.

Although daughters still outnumber sons in caregiving roles, the gender gap is steadily narrowing. Among adults aged 18 to 34 who provide care for someone with dementia, nearly half are men. Despite the increasing number of men in caregiving roles, many feel unqualified and ill-prepared for the challenges they encounter.

Routine tasks, such as grocery shopping and preparing healthy meals, can be daunting. The emotional toll is particularly taxing, as sons often struggle to open up, seek support, and feel uneasy providing personal care. The emotional toll is exacerbated by societal expectations that men should keep their emotions to themselves.

Moreover, financial strain is also common, as caregiving often clashes with the crucial period when men are establishing their personal and professional lives. Millennial men find themselves at a crossroads, balancing the demands of caregiving with the pursuit of their aspirations. In their noble pursuit, we must challenge prejudices so that caregiver men can adjust well to their duties.

Luckily, there are many strategies that we can follow to make the caregiving task easier for men. Here are some of them described below.

  • Seek Support Networks: Encourage caregiving sons to actively seek and join support networks, whether online communities or local support groups. Connecting with others facing similar challenges provides emotional support, and practical advice on navigating the complexities of caregiving.
  • Open Communication: Emphasize the importance of open communication within families. Breaking down societal expectations and fostering an environment where sons feel comfortable expressing their emotions is crucial. Transparent conversations can alleviate the emotional burden and make the task much easier.
  • Educate on Caregiving Skills: Provide resources and education on caregiving skills, both practical and emotional. Offering workshops or online courses that cover routine tasks, emotional well-being, and financial planning can empower caregiving sons.
  • Financial Planning: Address the financial strain that caregiving may impose on sons. Encourage them to explore available resources, and financial assistance programs. Help your caregiving sons seek professional advice on managing the financial aspects of caregiving.

As more sons’ step into caregiving roles, it is crucial to recognize and address the unique challenges they face. By acknowledging and addressing the emotional and financial toll, we can create an environment where sons are uplifted to help in a supportive caregiving landscape. So, share your insights on the topic on our forum. Register and join the movement today.